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I believe that there is truth to the old adage ‘beauty is only skin deep’. Regardless of your God given natural beauty or body shape, confidence and self-respect often radiate from within. Back in college, I remember a classmate commenting on a girl in our Marketing course. His exact words (which always somehow stuck with me) were ‘She’s not really that cute but her attitude makes her hot’. In the workplace, I think this also rings true. People may not gasp in awe when you step to the front of the room, but if you have the skills, the knowledge of the subject matter and the confidence in them both, you can still command attention.

Some workplaces are much more formal, where women may have to dress sleeker and be put together maticulously. In order workplaces, there is a more casual vibe and people may not look as polished, but may be just as polished as the individuals that work in those other environment. Again, I think what you radiate comes from within and there is most definitely something to be said about that phenomonon. Perhaps, answering this question raises yet another… how much does confidence and self-assurance matter?

Maybe the prettiest girl will the get the most initial attention or the less attractive girl might be taken more seriously initially, but how do the two ultimately meet in the middle? And, as women, who do we understand, master and leverage that?

WOW! Those are some crazy messages!

A good friend of mine has been online dating for a few years now, and recently “rededicated” herself to it, this time taking it even more seriously than before. I know that it’s causing her a lot of stress to analyze and re-analyze every photo, screen name, message, etc . It’s exhausting even for an observer and I’m not sure whether it will pay off! The people that I know that did find “the one” online seemed to happen across one another a bit coincidentally, as seems to happen in real life. From my vicarious experience, it’s best to think of online dating as you would real life: you’re out to have a good time and meet people. Sometimes guys will write crazy emails and sometimes they’ll give you crazy pickup lines at the bar – neither necessarily reflect anything about you personally and both can be ignored. I also think that the site itself doesn’t so much matter, just as you could meet Mr Right at your favorite bar or in a random parking lot, right?!

Here’s how this will play out. Young/healthy people (especially males) will see their premiums skyrocket. This is primarily due to community rating, gender rating, and bloated minimum coverage requirements to “spread risk”. The fine to opt out is very small and pre-existing conditions must be covered. So, many healthy young people will drop coverage and purchase it if and when they need it saving tons of $$$! Result? Adverse selection causing everyone else’s premiums to spike.

After all, who wants to be a low cost cash cow for the insurance companies paying in artificially inflated premiums to subsidize the welfare population (who will get subsidized or free coverage), octomoms, illegals (who won’t be forced into the pool but who will continue to use the ER as a primary care facility), the elderly, and the obese/lazy McDonald’s crowd? Not I! This may sound harsh, but it’s the reality.

Seriously though I’ve been there and done that. I didn’t go deep, but definitely a few sites. You think it’s hard on a lady? Imagine being a guy – I mean, try having to “make the moves” via email!!! It’s no wonder that those guys failed dismally. The “sincere” email was just that – someone who read your profile, but was unable to display his personal spark.

Let’s just say that I have better luck with job interviews. Nice article!

My husband and I thought he knew how to dress, but he first had on a t-shirt and shorts! His girlfriend and my husband talked to him, so he changed to jeans and a weird sweater. *sigh* Finally, he was enticed to wear a wrinkled button down shirt (silvery gray), black khakis and a tie. Not AS bad but no prizes. Then he tops it off with dirty, white high tops with black laces!

He argued the whole time how “he wouldn’t have to dress up for the interview–not until he gets the job” (they require a white shirt, black slacks and shoes and a tie). “You probably won’t GET that far, with this outfit. You’re giving the idea that you don’t care about the job, or respect the interviewer.

This went over like a lead balloon and luckily, the interviewer was busy and rescheduled it. I’m sending him a link to this site, as well as the company’s and a couple other ones on appropriate dress.

Back in MY day…as they say…we (even the hippies) would never have shown up for an interview like that. What gives?

Thanks for the great advice!